For adults · Dating
Messaging a match
A match suggests a phone call before meeting. Calls are hard for you.
They message: "Fancy a quick call before we meet?"
What could you send?
Three things you could say. None of them is the one right answer; each note says why it fits the moment, or why it may not.
I am not great on the phone. Could we message a bit more, or meet somewhere quiet?
A strong fit
It says what does not work and offers two things that do.
Could we do a short video call instead? Ten minutes works for me.
Also works here
This chooses a different channel with a limit. It works if video is easier than voice.
Sure, call whenever.
Worth a second look
Agreeing to a channel that is hard for you does not communicate what you need.
What people here usually expect
- Preferring text to calls is common in dating. Saying so early is normal.
- Offering an alternative shows interest without doing the hard thing.
- A partner who needs calls and one who cannot do them can still find out early. That is useful for both.
Your words
Write one message that says how you prefer to talk before meeting, without apologising for it.
In the app you write one line here and it lands in your lines. Nothing is graded.
The move this moment practises: A way to say it.
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