For teens · Friends
A friend is upset
A friend is upset about a fight with their parents.
What could you do first?
Three things you could say. None of them is the one right answer; each note says why it fits the moment, or why it may not.
Ask: "Do you want advice, or do you just want to talk?"
A strong fit
Asks what kind of help they want. Listening is help.
Listen and say "that sounds rough" when they pause.
Also works here
Listening first is usually what is wanted.
Tell them what to say to their parents.
Worth a second look
Advice they did not ask for. It skips finding out what they want.
What people here usually expect
- Most people who are upset want to be heard first.
- Asking "advice or talk?" is a real skill and friends notice it.
- You can suggest they talk to a trusted adult without taking over.
Your words
Write one question asking a friend if they want advice or just to talk.
In the app you write one line here and it lands in your lines. Nothing is graded.
The move this moment practises: Ask before helping.
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